This weekend I was surrounded by love. I was not at a wedding, or even a family event. I was at the Global Influence Summit—an international gathering of thought leaders.

What struck me most was the intentional and ongoing expression of appreciation, respect—and yes, love that I witnessed from the organizers, speakers, and the participants in the room. I’m no stranger to this type of event, having mentored and trained with Jack Canfield, the co-creator of Chicken Soup for the Soul and author of The Success Principles, however this was an opportunity to see another community that celebrated the virtues and values that I choose to surround myself with.

It’s important to surround ourselves with love.

IMG_0962Love nourishes

Love lifts us up.

Love builds connections.

Love deepens our human experience.

At our very core, we all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are.


There was a time in my life when I struggled to feel the love and appreciation that surrounded me. There was no lack of friends or family to express their adoration—I was just not receiving it—stuck in my own negative thoughts and destructive beliefs, I wasn’t feelin’ the love!

The truth is that I was depleted and dissatisfied with my life, I had been diagnosed with depression—which ultimately was a label, and not the root cause of my problem. The problem was not that other people didn’t love me. The problem was that I didn’t love and appreciate me! And, if I didn’t, why the heck would I expect anyone else to?

So what are you doing to feel the love and appreciation, which you desire? Are you searching for love in all the wrong places? Is your love tank empty?

As Dr. Gary Chapman in his #1 New York Times best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages described, my love tank was completely empty. I needed to find a way to fill it back up—for me, and for the people that I loved.

According to Chapman, there are five distinct ways that we feel and therefore express love. Often what happens in relationships is that we are literally expressing a different love language than our partner, child, or friend.

The book influenced my life so dramatically; I asked my friend and colleague, Caroline Rochon to join me on Showing Up radio to talk about the 5 love languages as well as her work as a Premiere Partner for Appreciation in the Workplace. Tune in to KAOS 91.1 on Monday, February 22nd at 10:30 am MT to hear our discussion on Love.